Today i made a trip to Leeds for a nice meeting with a biiiig biiiggg clubbing company who want me to be a City Manager for Manchester. It went amazing, will most definitely be taking that direction in my club work route.
When i got on the train to come back i noticed there were no seats available, only Reserved ones, but they had nobody sitting in them. Sooo me being me i went and sat in them and got chatting with the guys behind me and told them i was gona sit there till someone comes and tells me to get off. Once i sat down a within a few seconds a guy came and sat next to me. He had a blue jacket and a back pack on and instantly when he sat down said to me “I’m going to do the same as you and sit here till someone comes”. His name was Daniel. We carried on chatting for a bit and…as we talked more and more i noticed there was something slightly wrong with this guy. He didnt seem to be relaxed or psychologically at ease.
I realised after chatting to him more and seeing him do a few things that….he had massive MASSIVE anxiety problems. To the point that he just wouldnt function normally. As we got to the first stop, he started to get a bit shaky and was constantly looking up then looking back at his paper, again and again. As we got to the stop he was literally turning the pages of his newspaper while his eyes were focused on the door as everyone was getting on, as if his unconscious was controlling him 100%. He was also shaking alot more and starting to change skin tone.
This is what happens when you start to think too much about the immediate future or even distant future in a negative way. In Daniel’s case he was thinking very badly about someone coming through the doors at the next stop and telling him to get up and move. Its not that bad. But your mind can make it bad. He could of been imagining in bright vivid pictures that someone told him to get up, maybe also that everyone would see him being told to move, social embarrassment, maybe him falling over as he got up off the chair.
Imagining all of that can lead to soooo many long term effects that will give you bad health and obviously a bad mentality towards the world.
Seeing Daniel like this made me realise how we too often think alot in our head about things that havent even happened!! I say that we live in 3 worlds…..The world in our mind….The world of technology…..And the world we see and feel with our senses. We should be centered in the world that we see and feel, its what is most real. The other 2 are made out of what we see and feel. All 3 should b used but maybe in a 2:1:1 ratio. So maybe 50/25/25 percentage wise.
I hate to see people who are living in there head, who are controlled by their mind. When your mind makes you do things like what Daniel was doing…..the strange thing is that….you can actually see it happening but cant stop it or choose not to. Its like you have a part that watches whats happening and a part that makes it happen. Just remember that….everything you do unconsciously…you can see consciously.
You have the power to control how your mind functions, remember that.
Sam
(Oh and….the title for this blog post was a quote from the one of the girls on a Hen Party on the train, really made me laugh!)
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Question: Do you think in your mind often? If so, how much do you think it effects your perception of the world?
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This is very helpful to a question I was dealing with a lot today.
What was it mate?
Basically I get caught up in my own thoughts a lot. So I found it helpful, how you broke it down to a 2:1:1 ratio. I thought that was a unique way of handling the situation.
Also, I admire how you separate the different aspects of your life. You have the ‘Sam’ aspect and you also have the ‘How To Change Life’ aspect. So basically 2 different aspects to one person. I’d love to read a post where you examine how you deal with those 2 areas of your life and how you separate them out and stay organized (and sane).
I recently (yesterday), separated my life into 2 different areas. Before that I had more than 2. So I was really flustered before I did that. Basically I figured out what the 2 things are that I’m most passionate about and I’m resolving to make those 2 things my driving force from here on out. Without going into it too deeply, those 2 things are Art & Social Dynamics. & then I’m going to develop a niche within those 2 areas.
Before that I had way too much stuff going on and it was pulling me in all kinds of directions, to the point that nothing would get done. So now I have a better ‘road map’ for myself.
So, there you have it. Do you have a ‘road map’ for your life Sam?
Wow Bart mate i love how you seem to understand me so well, its amazing!!
Yeah i do have the Sam aspect and the How To Change Life Now aspect….however….a few weeks ago i decided to try and bring those 2 closer together, which you may be able to tell by reading my last few posts, they arent just a How to do this and that, they are about my life experiences and how they help me and others discover more about life. The reason i wanted to bring them closer together ( i have been meaning to for a while) is because they were creating a split personality. Sometimes i would be the big club promoter who everyone knows and loves and on other days i would be well educated thinker who blogs and speaks at events. Its like having a care-less side and a care-more side, u know? But the strange thing is that everything a person does should always be a representation of who they are.
So without knowing it we all do things that are a representation of who we are and how we think. Its just they may be manifested in different ways. I can have fun having sex with a girl but i can also have fun reading the latest post by Tim Ferris. So how do i stay sane and organised….i make sure that everything i am doing is moving towards 2 things….what i need…..and excitement.
Sounds like you have organised your life well man….if you can create a Niche for Art and Social Dynamics that will be bloody cool!!! All about being the niche maker
Yeee we all have stuff which pulls us in all kinds of directions, everyday there is something new. New people, new experiences, new findings in the world.
Maybe dont name what you are doing a ‘road map’, a map presumes you are trying to get from A to B. I’ve got a friend called Abbi who always likes to plan things ahead. She just went out to Paris and wanted to plan everything before she event go there. I said to her…..”If your aim is to get from your hotel to the beach, then you will miss whats on the way”….:-) So if your aim it to get from A to B then you will miss what you see on the way, which could be really important. You know what i mean?
Do i have a map…no….do i have a solid rule implanted into my unconscious that lets me know what to do….YES
I think the idea of bringing them closer together is very key. The closer the better. It’s more integrated and yeah, you don’t run the risk of being two or more personalities at that point. Which can be a real danger. I know that in my case, I have to stay diligent and make sure I’m not getting too far out of my ‘zone’. Even now, with my two areas that I’m dealing with, I have a total of 4 niche areas that I’m interested in. All of them I’m extremely interested in. But you know what, I need to narrow them down even further. Probably 3 would be good. Then I could apply your 2:1:1 ratio to it (50%, 25%, 25%).
You see, I could very easily have ten projects going at one time. I actually do to be honest with ya. But its hard to make any progress that way. That’s why I need to cut my losses and define a more narrow focus toward my objectives.
In a few days or so I’ll share with you more specifically what I’m up to. Probably in a private message. I think you’ll dig it the most.
Anyways. You’ve been awesome to read, chat with, etc… We need more like you. Keep up the good work!