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	<title>Sam Ben-David&#039;s Famous &#38; crazy Life &#187; Dating, Pick-Up &amp; Attraction</title>
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		<title>&#8220;Tips to Improve your Inner Game, by Sam Ben-David&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/tips-to-improve-your-inner-game-by-sam-ben-david</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 May 2010 18:11:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Thought i would share with you a Guest Post i did for Matthew Graham's  Tru Confidence Blog a few months ago. His website is down so you cant view where it is, get it back up Matt ;-). Hope you enjoy it guys.]]></description>
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		<title>Interview With World No.1 PUA And Dating Coach, Adam Lyons</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/interview-with-world-no-1-pua-and-dating-coach-adam-lyons</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Apr 2010 01:18:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Special treat for everyone this week, good old Adam Lyons took some time out of his ridiculously busy schedule to answer a few questions for all my readers. YYYAYYYYY!!!!!]]></description>
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		<title>How Not Caring How Good You Are At Something&#8230;.Can Make You Better</title>
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		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/how-not-caring-how-good-you-are-at-something-can-make-you-better#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:36:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Key's to Life]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[As of tomorrow my brief 4 week period of working 24/7 will end....

HEEELLLLL YEEAAAHHHHH :-)

Over the last couple of weeks i have been too busy to properly focus on anything besides my Club Managing work. Now you would think because of this other part's of my life would start to get worse, for example my Dating life. But guess what, i have had more success than ever and have girls coming out my bum and ear holes and practically every possible angle you can imagine. How is this possible? Well its very simple....

Sometimes, the more focus you put on something, the more meaning you attach to it, meaning that the result is alot more important to you. So there is more of a chance of you lets say getting nervous or getting negative emotions when the time comes to put all your practice or pre planning to use. Like a Runner who has been training for the Olympic Try Outs for the last 6 months and when the big day comes, he gets nervous and anxious and doesnt make cut. Its such a shame.

Its not our fault that we feel strongly towards things we care about, its great...it lets us know that it means alot to us. But we dont want our emotions to control us.

So something i discovered was that, if for a short period you take the focus off of something you have been focusing on and place this focus on something else...the next time you come into the situation where you would have usually been super focused for that old task, you may find yourself more relaxed and at ease.

For me, the moments lately when i have been out in clubs, have all seemed...well.... trivial. I was at ease in every interaction, getting numbers, going home with a few girls. Its been really fun and the so soooo simple reason for that is that i didnt place any extra meaning on whatever was happening. At times where i was really focusing on my interactions really making sure everything was perfect, i would sometimes think alot about what to say before because i wanted to get it perfect. This sometimes put extra stress on me, not good. But over the last few weeks it has been super smooth sailing, i've met so many and had some great experiences with a lot.

The key thing to remember about what i was experiencing was that, the whole time just being out and seeing a really nice girl and then chatting to her has now become a trivial thing. Or for a more scientific/nlp term....it has become an unconscious competence for me.

I strongly suggest anyone out there takes a short break from anything they have been doing constantly for the last couple of months. Whether it be practicing your social skills or training for that Tennis Tournament coming up or revising for that big test. Just try it out, fill the time you would normally spend doing whatever it was you were doing with, maybe seeing a close friend or going out and buying yourself something new. Anything that makes you feel good. Just try it and let me know how you get on :-).

Now, i'm off to plan my dates for the next week ahead ;-)

Chat soon peeps.

Sam Ben-David]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;The Sun is Everything&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/the-sun-is-everything</link>
		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/the-sun-is-everything#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Feb 2010 21:57:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[One of the most amazing thing i still find truly powerful, is the thought that, personal experience will define your perception of something. Whether we all like it or not, we are indeed Empiricists. But this is not a bad thing, its great! Being an Empiricist means we have Politics, 15 different newspapers talking about the same topic in a different way, 1000's of PUA coaches and constant arguments on whether Egg's are good for you or not (they are good for you by the way, dont make me debate with you....you will lose!).]]></description>
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		<title>My System for Improving your PUA &amp; Dating Life</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/my-system-for-improving-your-pua-dating-life</link>
		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/my-system-for-improving-your-pua-dating-life#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:12:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Key's to Life]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I want to write everything(well nearly!!) in one article and hopefully give you the most complete ideology you will ever need to improve with women. Here it goes :)]]></description>
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		<title>Using a Mentality of Abundance to Improve your Skills with Women</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/using-a-mentality-of-abundance-to-improve-your-skills-with-women</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Dec 2009 22:19:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Key's to Life]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Heeeeyyyyy guyyyyssss :)

Xmas is nearly here wooooooohoooooo, to all that is reading this i hope you have/had a very wonderful Xmas :)

Ok so here is something i have been looking forward to writing for at least a week, waaaayyyy to long, the notes i have for this on my phone have reached the limit!! Dayyyymmmm.]]></description>
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		<title>A theory as to why people who are Beautiful on the outside are not on the inside</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/a-theory-as-to-why-people-who-are-beautiful-on-the-outside-are-not-on-the-inside</link>
		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/a-theory-as-to-why-people-who-are-beautiful-on-the-outside-are-not-on-the-inside#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Dec 2009 17:23:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The world is full of many things we dont understand....but one of the biggest things we do not understand is why when we meet a lovely looking girl do we soon discover that she is nothing like her exterior would have us believe. Why do we meet women who are beautiful on the outside, but not on the inside.]]></description>
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		<title>How Facebook has become an Internet Dating Site for Men</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/how-facebook-has-become-an-internet-dating-site-for-men</link>
		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/how-facebook-has-become-an-internet-dating-site-for-men#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:16:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Hi guys, Earlier i was thinking about years ago when i was in High School and how nerdy and geeky it was perceived when a guy signed up to an internet dating site and used it to meet new women. It was the most socially unacceptable thing you could do! Then&#8230;..facebook came along&#8230;.a way for [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Disgraceful Behaviour of the PUA World</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/the-disgraceful-behaviour-of-the-pua-world</link>
		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/the-disgraceful-behaviour-of-the-pua-world#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:11:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dating]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mystery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[This will be short, i dont want to talk too long about this, just wanted a small view of mine to be seen. As you will know from reading here, i am not a big fan of PUA's and the PUA world in general. For simple reasons; the PUA World is a business, therefore it is result driven, meaning the best company is the one that gets the most results.]]></description>
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		<title>Body Language</title>
		<link>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/body-language</link>
		<comments>http://www.howtochangelifenow.com/body-language#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Oct 2009 15:17:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sam Ben-David</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dating, Pick-Up & Attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[communication]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dating]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NLP]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[How strange is this&#8230;..i have not written a single article yet purely for Body Language, madness! Firstly before i start blabbing away i would like to thank Karabo Maota for suggesting the topic. Body language is such an important factor when communicating, i really dont know where to start&#8230;..Lets start with something simple&#8230;..Communication is based [...]]]></description>
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