I am someone who tries to not be careless with money, i spend on what i need…. and…. like to buy things i want as often as possible to, but what i need comes first.

But it seems that in todays world…what we NEED comes at a higher price than you think. Take someone who tries to eat a healthy and balanced diet, they wont eat crap food as it will not benefit them in the slightest. They need to have good quality food i.e; unprocessed foods, lean meats, fresh fruits, good mono unsaturated fats,….and thats just lunch! Here is just a few examples of how much standard quality food costs in the U.K from Tesco;

• 2x Blueberries: £7.96
• 2x Healthy Living Steak Mince: £5.96
• 2x Almonds: £3.98

Total: £15.96 ($24.4)

Quite pricey ay? Few other examples for ya….

• Breast Enlargement by Transform – £3695 ($5646)
• Dating Bootcamp by Love Systems – £1961 ($2997)
• Virgin Active Gym Membership – Over £500 per year+ travel

It is fair to say that the world has successfully monetized human beings feeling good and looking good. How has the world done it? Simple….By making us BELIEVE that how good we feel is only possible by stimulus’s external of ourselves.I still cant believe an advert i saw a while ago in a London Tube station, it was for a cosmetic treatment company and the slogan read:

“Confidence you can Afford”

How messed up is that….the general public view of the world is that your confidence is totally dependent on other people!!! How and why has it come to this. Did you know as well that a therapist will charge MORE to help you based on the severity of your condition. So if you have a mild case of insomnia it will cost less than if you had a severe case. Shouldnt it be the other way around? Oh Health Care is another perfect example of that as well, how a more severe condition will cost you more.

For a while now i have thought and tried to live by a simple idea that i have talked about a few times on my blog and in person with people i meet….My idea is to always generate how you feel from within….none of this conditional happiness, none of this feeling good one day then feeling crap the next. Its all about making sure whatever you are doing is making you happy. People do not realise the power they have to change everything around them, simply by changing their thinking, environment and physiology.

Try this, think of something sad while smiling……doesnt seem so sad now does it? How about watching a scary film in the bright sun in the middle of the day with lovely music playing in the background and 20 people with you….probably doesnt seem so scary does it?

You have more control over how you feel that you may realise, the examples above show that simply by changing the environment and physiology you can change how you feel instantly! But sometimes you cant control environment, or your physiology doesnt change how you feel, so what else do you have MAXIMUM control over?

Your thinking……

Just take a moment to take this one sentence in……You can control every thought you consciously think…….

Conscious thinking implies control

But regardless of this piece of knowledge….people allow themselves to get upset and get into negative ways of thinking. Whats even worse is that people get annoyed and angry over things they cant control….Like traffic jam’s, kicking and screaming that you are going to be late to somewhere will not make it any different. But….thinking and imagining how amazing it will be to get to where you are going will make you alot more peaceful and centred. Never get angry over anything you cant control. Its a waste of time.

For everyone reading this i really want you all to try and do one thing…..For a week, practice making sure how you feel is dependent on you and only you. For example i regularly do things like dress badly or controversially, have days of eating crap food, dont wash, maybe skip a gym session, maybe do a home workout, intentionally get rejected by a girl, do something that most would consider socially embarrassing . I also every day when i wake up lie in bed for 5 minutes thinking about all the positive things i am going to do that day to make my life better. Consciously and subconsciously it helps so much.

All of these are done to test my mind and to train myself to be fully dependent on myself to feel happy.

Just remember guys….you can be independently happy

Sam Ben-David

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Question: Do you consider yourself someone who is independently happy, or dependent on objects or others?

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