Knowing what we want with women, business, physically, mentally …..has so many benefits to us that it would be idiotic to not consciously decide what we truly want from everything. The common experience i had before i got involved in the Personal Development world however is that when i decided what i wanted….i would sometimes be afraid to go after it, in case i didn’t get it. The fear of not getting what i wanted or failing, was more powerful than the reason i wanted to go for that specific thing. The unconscious likes to keep things how they are, it doesn’t like to chance happiness. The Status quo is happiness to it
We are more held back by ourselves than anything else. Not by something or someone out there restricting us, but something inside, maybe its how we will be perceived if we fail, maybe its how upset we will be when we dont get it. Whatever the reason, its the added meaning we give to something which is the reason we may not go for it.
So i started to wonder what a solution could be….if people like the ‘old me’ dont go for what they want because of fear then there are 2 options; get rid of the fear or go for something else. But both of these still didnt appeal to the problem because if you go for something different you wont want it enough and may not be motivated to achieve it. Or if you keep what you want and attempt to get rid of the fear, it can work…..but not well enough to be gone forever. So i thought of a 3rd alternative….change what you want….but make sure it still can give you the same result as what you originally wanted. By doing this you take away the fear and actually tackle the task better because you enjoy the process of getting what it is you want. What also happens is if you choose an outcome which directly gives you the new thing you want and indirectly gives you what you used to want….then you will be more likely to get both!
For example alot of men want to be better with women, so they have the outcome in mind that they want to have alot more experience with the opposite sex or sleep with more women or have a relationship. But they want everything immediately and obviously dont because it takes time , so they end up going into a state of anguish and pain. We all expect to get what we want as soon as possible, but what we dont do is change what we want into a more timely goal. If we choose something we want right now then we are much more likely to get it…and be happier
An example, lets say someone has a low amount of experience with women and wants to turn that around by saying that they want more dates. Well that is going from beginning to end in 1 hit. Its not possible. Its like saying you have a plant seed and want a plant today, it wont happen, it will take time. So what this person who has no experience needs to do is change what they want; instead of saying you want more dates, say that what you want is to go out and find out more about women by meeting more. Thats it! Nothing else, just go out and start talking to them, about anything. If you do this then you will not get any fear at all because there is no way you can fail….all you are doing is just gaining any information you can from them. The normal guy who wants more dates would approach a women and not focus on her, he would just focus on what he wants, he wouldnt care about anything she says, only on what her answer would be when he asked the killer question. Missing out all the crucial information she is giving him. If something doesnt match your wants and needs then you will ignore it.
The idea of changing what you want also can give you a whole load of different positive results. For example my goal right now in regards to women is to communicate and interact fully with each women specifically and discover what works and what doesnt with each person i meet ( This is great for any person…it really helps teach focus and sensual acuity for any interaction you have). It is NOT to sleep with them. Therefore because of this belief i approach nearly every girl i see instantly and do not get what most guys get which is being stuck in their head thinking of what to say. I just see and do. SEE AND DO. SEE….AND….DO. But what has happened in the process is i get the result i want of finding out more about them and i also get more. This is because i treat each girl individually, i wont think that what i spoke about and did with another girl will work on another. I see, hear and feel whats infront of me and respond to it.
Simply decide what you want then ask how you will achieve it, then use that as what you now want. For example “I want a better body”…. How can you achieve that….”By focusing and working out as hard as possible when in the gym” NEW GOAL…….I WANT TO FOCUS AND WORKOUT AS HARD AS POSSIBLE AT THE GYM.
The results you get will be dramatic.
Happy living people 
