“Sam!! Why haven’t we spoken in so ages?”

Every couple of weeks i do something that not many people do, well i havent met anyone who does it as well, but i am sure there are other COOL people out there who do it

I take a step back and think about the people that are currently involved in my life, friends, girls i am seeing or chatting to, business people, everyone. Then i think….who out of these people do i either:

1. Never physically see.

2. Always initiating contact with.

3. Always give value and get none in return.

If any of the people in my life there and then fill any of those 3 categories…then i completely stop communicating with them in any way shape and form. I’ll stop calling, i’ll stop seeing them, i’ll stop dealing with them. Everything. Why? These people are not good for my life, using any energy to communicate with them is a waste of time. And my time is valuable

Now lets talk about people i never physically see, why would i ‘throw them out of my life?”  Well….You see…due to a combination of the social media developments and societies new general belief that “i want to use the least amount of effort to communicate with people”…..we now live in a world where we see people less and less. Facebook, blackberry messenger; they are so widely used because they are good and they allow you to communicate with someone using minimal amounts of effort. Usually when people are in situations where they have to contact someone for something, they will choose the option that involves less effort, its silly i know…but alot of people do this. Chances are that alot of you get sent more text messages a day than you receive calls….

Now categories 2, why would i throwaway people like a piece of worthless litter, for them never initiating contact with me? Well funnily enough category 3 is the answer….I am always giving them something and not getting anything in return. Think about a girl you really like who you talk to all the time and show how much you like her and do all you can for her, but you get nothing back….Now…this girl is literally taking your value and essence every time you communicate with her. Its NEGATIVE, meaning it will create negative emotions and patterns of thinking that will actually make you into a negative and cynical person. You dont want that. As well…if she shows you disinterest and you are STILL pursuing her then…well….my video here and around 2 minutes in describes what i would do….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GR0LF-jCBm8

Its not bad to ignore them or stop talking to them, whats worse is to make plans to see them and it never actually happens. Its so easy to say “I wana see you” “Lets get together sometime”. Its funny sometimes now if girls text me or message me on facebook, i treat them as if they were a robot i.e. not a real person (because we only ever communicate via technology), so i’ll literally say anything to them…because it wont transfer into the real world because i never see them. Its true that what you do online can affect the real world, but if what you do online is never going to come in contact with you in the real world, then you could do just anything because it will never transfer over.

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The whole idea of doing all this is that….it will help stabilise and improve your life. People are fundamentally the world, not the land not the trees, people. Without them we would not have much. So its important that you watch who is part of your life in any way. The strange thing is that we consider people we talk to alot via technology to also be part of our lives….when in reality, they are not.

You might be thinking what to do if you do this and any of the people who fit the categories above try and contact you or you see them and they ask why you havent spoke in so long….Well from Personal Experience i can tell you that….chances are that wont actually happen. The harsh thought you will realise if you do this is that….if you stop corresponding and communicating with the people who fit the categories above…you’ll see that they do not even care, or dont care enough to find out why you no longer speak. Right then you will realise how good of a decision it was to have a Social Clean Up. But if they do ask why you havent spoke just say you have been busy and then carry on from where you left off. Or do whatever you like. Just remember that people often miss things when they are gone, so you just taking a brief period having no contact with them…may actually help your friendship or situation.

You can choose every person you want in and around your life, so always choose the best

Sam

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