Using a Mentality of Abundance to Improve your Skills with Women

Heeeeyyyyy guyyyyssss

Xmas is nearly here wooooooohoooooo, to all that is reading this i hope you have/had a very wonderful Xmas

Ok so here is something i have been looking forward to writing for at least a week, waaaayyyy to long, the notes i have for this on my phone have reached the limit!! Dayyyymmmm.

I  live in Manchester but i originally come from Essex near London in the U.K. Around here….the guys i knew when i was in my late teens didnt meet that many women when they were out and about round clubs in London. Usually because of approach anxiety, its weird back then the hardest part for any of us was to ACTUALLY APPROACH A GIRL. We didnt talk about anything else, we had the frame of mind that approaching was all we had to worry about, anyone else have this when they were younger?? Anyway, so they barely approached(and still do)….so they rarely got to meet new girls unless it was through social circles. So because of this any girl they met….they grabbed onto like it was the last girl they would ever meet!!! As soon as they get her number they cant wait to text her, see her, be with her. It was mad mate!! If anyone was to ask me where the term ‘getting lucky’ originated i would definitely say LONDON. Haha.

So simply put….all their Dating energy will be focused on this 1 girl, or maybe too…if they are lucky were getting really lucky . This right here is a common scenario for many guys. They treat women as if they are in short demand, or there is a famine so you have to nourish what you have very very slowly. To put it in one sentence……

The average guy has a mentality of Scarcity with Women.

WHY THE HELL DO GUYS HAVE THIS!!!

Do you know how many bloody women there in the world…..MILLIONS, chances are you have only met less that 1% of them. I did a bit of research and would you guys like to know how many single women there are in the U.K and U.S?? Sure you doooooo I tried to find some info on how many single women there were, but this is obviously impossible to know (i researched for waaay too long before i realised that!!) In the U.K this year a study was done by the Government’s Office for National Statistics on more than 17,000 females. The study showed that over 50% of women in the survey under 50 had never married, which is double the amount it was 30 years ago. Funny these women have been termed ‘Freemales‘, love that. In the U.S…the figures i found were from 2004, but they are bloody interesting!! In America 63% of the population have never been married!!! I also saw that there are over 95 million american women who are unmarried or single!! dayyymmm. Oh also , this is good if you live in New York….it has the highest percentage of adults who are not married…50%. Also in Paradise, Nevada there are 118 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women, the highest ratio in any state.

I HATE how so many guys have the mentality of scarcity. Its such a shame that we grab on to what we have, i have friends when they meet a girl it goes really well they think “aaahhh shes hot i cant wait to tx her blah blah” So they tx call etc, then she flakes a bit and doesnt return text’s or calls and says shes busy when you ask to meet her….But what do alot of guys do then…..they keep persisting on and on. Why? Because they have nothing else, they want to hold onto it….because its easier aswell.

I said this to my friend Darren once and he was shocked( i hope he is reading this too)….I said that….if i meet a girl and things go well but she either stops replying to my calls or when i ask to meet she say’s she’s busy….You know what i do…..I delete her out my life, i delete her number, i her facebook if i have it, anything. Why? 2 reasons, first…ok theres 3 reasons. 1st……if something or someone in my life becomes negative….i get rid of it, its gone, i only keep positive around me. As Tim Ferriss says “there is enough negativity in this world”, so dont bring it to you. 2nd………My Vice Versa rule applies here, for those who havent read it, do so here. 3rd…..the main one….da da duuu……

THERE ARE SOOOO MANY MORE LOVELY WOMEN OUT THERE.

The mentality of ABUNDANCE guys it rules all. Lets say you met a really nice girl, amazing…but shes flaked and now you are unhappy and moping around thinking you are terrible at women and life NOW(most guys develop low confidence from situations like this)…..Think for a second how many girls there were at the last club you went to? I’m sure there were more than 10 right? I hope so…well think about it, if you go back to that same place and meet 10 girls there and get there contact details…..You just got 10 times the amount of girls you just lost into your life!!! Now thats abundance right there. Thats just an example of 10, some clubs have hundreds of girls. A club i work at in Manchester fits 2700 people in it and on Saturday nights has over 2000 people there and it has 100′s and 100′s of girls, probably close to a 1000. Alot of guys

The best thing about having a mentality of abundance is that it redefines your whole state when approaching. You will feel less anxious and will think less therefore becoming more relaxed in the process. Simply because you now KNOW that there are alot of opportunities out there. If something doesnt work out, you will brush it off your shoulder cleaner than Jay-Z. You will walk around like you have all the women in the world. Well You do, you just havent met them yet! Some guys out there already have this….its usually guys who either have girlfriends or have girls they are already seeing(or going back to when they leave the club). They act as if they arent even trying to hit on them when they approach them(which will make them more attracted). Its one of best frame of minds to have, the frame of mind of becoming care-less of the end result. It breaks you free of psychological time as Eckhart Tolle says. It gives you SALVATION.

So guys…..go out….. meet some women…..and feel good knowing that if it doesnt work out, there are plenty more where they came from

Sam

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